Sunday, August 23, 2009

I am a Mother Hen

Well, as you can tell by my first two posts I am a mother hen.

I cannot control myself.

I often wonder if it is a midwestern thing. Am I a meddler because where I was raised? Or am I a meddler because of genetics?

I want to fix things, make them better. Yes, often I make them worse, good point. Still, I cannot tell you how good it feels when someone who I have helped comes back for more.

Oodles of experience here. Bad relationships, I am your woman (though mine is fantastic now and has been for 10 years). Childhood issues? Name your poison, I am sure I can relate. Do you have naughty kids? I can fix them. Need some research done? I am the master Googler!

Well, all for now.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

How men work by Hettie

On Men-
  • Men do not like to be told what to do... So,You need to make them think that what they do is their idea! So, relax and sit back, and if someone else, casually mentions it around him, just say, "JOE has everything under control I am sure..."
  • The more they feel like the HAVE to do something, the less they want to do it!So, you need to make him feel like there is no pressure
  • Men don't like deadlines!
  • Men don't like ultimatums!

On Marriage-

  • you cannot rush a marriage! So, why rush a wedding?
  • As for men saying when they want to get married, they say it, and think we are going to be appeased! They assume that you will forget the date, just as they have, as soon as they say it!
  • IMHO I do not think engagements should not be more or less than a year. 12 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding! I think that the relationship suffers if the only thing people work on is the wedding.
  • Right now, what is your major concern? How you are going to live with this man the rest of your life, while continually changing and growing together, OR the wedding dress?
  • Should you be worrying about getting married, or worrying about if you are marrying the right guy?

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

First Post on this lovely Blog

Well, here we are again. Me typing on my laptop and you, well, probably being a productive member of society.

My main goal in life has been, well for the past 10 years, to be a great mom. I have done this, I think! But, I was not doing things I wanted, and needed to do! I have not drawn, or painted for years. I have not scrapbooked in 1 year or taken many pics in previous months! So, what have I been doing? Went back to school, that was hard, but worth it. Got a part-time job, and that was really exciting!

Well, if you know me, you know that I write. I can write a break-up letter that you would not believe, and have done so for others. I have been writing bad poetry for as long as I can remember, save the last few years. I wrote a compelling thesis... So, I thought the next step was to put my words to some good use!

So, here you go!!! My words of wisdom!

If someone is treating you badly, tell them. Do not allow the behavior to continue... As Dr. Phil would say, you are teaching them how to treat you...

If you want to change then you need to be the major factor in that change. You cannot count on anyone else to change your circumstances.

If you keep making excuses for your life, then you need a new life.

If you want to have good friends, then be a good friend... Same goes for having a good husband/wife, be a good wife/husband.

That is all for now!

More later!